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You can do anything. But not everything.

You Can Do Anything

This is a piece of advice I’ve dished out more than once recently. It seems many of friends have been feeling overwhelmed and overtired with, well, life. People are bombarded from all directions; there are things we have to do and things we want to do, culminating in too much stuff for any normal human being to deal with.

The feeling of constant business seems to be a sign of the times. There are too many things, not enough hours, not enough money, and definitely not enough sleep. 

I absolutely love the movement around at the moment that encourages us to believe that we can do anything. This is a good thing, it opens all the doors, builds our confidence and leads to success. But it is also a huge problem. It can lead us to feel like we should be doing everything. There is a huge difference – you can do anything, but you don’t have to. We are much better off picking from our long list rather than trying make it all happen. We cannot do everything. It is impossible. And almost always leads to failure.

It’s a piece of advice I need to heed myself. I have, once again, fallen into that exact trap. I have agreed to too much, overestimating my ability to squeeze it all in. Alongside all the things I have to do – like go to work, eat dinner and clean the bathroom – there are a whole host of other things that I want to do. And I’ve said yes to quite a few of them. 

I’m currently sat on a picnic blanket in my tent in the north of Scotland. We are on a week long road trip to experience the North Coast 500 – ahhh holidays. We’ve brought the car and are camping our way around the coastline up here – it is stunning. Okay so the weather might not be that amazing (hence the car rather than the motorbikes this time), but as Nardole said in Dr Who, this is Scotland weather, and I don’t mind it. It is bliss; I love a road trip, I love the freedom, the travel, the planning, the views, and the rest. 

But in the run up to going away it all got a bit much. I didn’t have time to do anywhere near all the things I needed to do. Including things that were important to our road trip – such as mark up our road map with all the places we wanted to visit. And I definitely didn’t pack well, I have quite the selection of mismatching clothes and random accessories that are the result of having no time for proper list writing or thinking. It’s okay, I’ve been warm enough and thankfully those I’m with don’t seem to mind! I tweeted on Friday morning that I reckoned I had about two weeks worth of things to do before bedtime, and I wasn’t joking. So much going on at home and at work – a list as long as my arm of things I’ve promised one person or another or myself, and I’m not talking bucket list here! Most of it is good and fun and happy, don’t get me wrong, no complaints on the what side of thing, but just too much.

Too much on the list means less time for the new stuff I want to do – like have more fun and exciting outdoors adventures in the evenings and on weekends. Having to turn down opportunities that I know would be life highlights, or even just saying no to a walk with friends because I am already fully booked is painful. It sounds silly, I’m sure, but when something comes up that sounds like fun, I want to get involved and go do. I want to say yes to all the opportunities. I want to to everything. But I can’t. I can do anything – but not everything.

For some reason I have never learnt the difference between anything and everything. This all makes for a tired and rather grumpy Zoe. And a tired and grumpy Zoe is the most unproductive person you might ever meet. I am a real mopey girl. So lazy. And that makes the feeling of failure much, much worse. 

So here I sit, layered up in a random selection of jumpers, cross legged on my picnic blanket, drinking tea, allowing the words to flow to remind myself of this advice I quite happily dish out to others. Using this very important down time when I physically can’t complete any of the tasks that are awaiting my attention to stop and think. To organise the mess in my head. To rewrite the list in an order that makes it more achievable. To make choices on what to say yes to (and therefore no to) when I get back home. Repeating my own advice to my self – anything, not everything.

It’s good advice. Very sound. Something we should all remember. And I am hoping that by the time we complete the road trip circle and return home I will have it all worked out – or at least have caught up on my sleep, feel much more relaxed, and be ready to get going again in the real world.


You Can Do Anything

A bit of a personal ramble I know, I hope you don’t mind.

If you are feeling tired, overwhelmed, overworked, like there is too much in your life for you to function properly, try to remember that saying. It’s okay. You can do anything. Absolutely anything you want to. But not everything. Saying yes is great. Saying no could be the better option. It’s the choosing that’s the hardest part. 


7 Responses

  1. Allysse Riordan

    It’s very good advice.

    I’ve learned this the hard way too. I know to avoid doing everything and that I should say no when I’m already too booked up but sometimes it just seems impossible. But I feel I’m better at saying no now. June had been super busy, at the threshold of overbooked and although there are a lot of things I want to do in July, I’m forcing myself not to make plans so I can stop and relax. It’s hard and I feel sometimes lazy because of it. But then I remind myself of the very same piece of advice: ‘it’s not about doing everything’. In the long run, my health and mental health will thank me for it 🙂

    • Splodz

      You’re definitely right Allysse, I’m glad you have found balance (and the ability to say no). Have an awesome July relaxing 🙂 🙂

  2. Jonathan

    Oh how I need to hear this advice. I get myself in a tizz sometimes thinking how committing to do one thing means I can’t do something else, then trying to cram that something else in there anyway. Chill, self! It’s good to slow down sometimes.

  3. Shybiker

    Good advice. Life today is much more demanding than it used to be. The Internet really sped things up.

    • Splodz

      Oh things are SO fast now thanks to the internet – it’s great for lots of things, but maybe not our heart rates!

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